Regret is a word I struggle with! Do I have them? Of course! Am I'm upset about them? Not really. Sure, I could have made different choices or taken my life on a different path, but then I may not have landed where I am now. I'm quite happy with my life now. I wasn't happy for a long time, but if I hadn't gone through those struggles, I wouldn't be the person I am today.
The only regret I will have in life is if I never get to take my solo trip to Disney World haha! That's been on my bucket list since I was a kid. I've been with family and friends, but have always dreamed of a trip by myself. It will probably never happen, because I accidentally turned my husband into a Disney adult and could never leave him behind, but maybe someday...
Because DW is always growing and changing. There's so much to do and explore! It's hard to take my time and soak it all in when I'm trying to make sure everyone else gets to do all the things that they want to do. I love sharing the magic with my family, but I've always selfishly wanted to do it on my own terms as well. Even as a kid when we went with big groups of friends and family, I always told myself that one day I'd take a trip on my own. The closest I've gotten was last year when my husband and I went, without the kids, for an anniversary trip. Hopefully some day!
Hi Ginny, I have a pulmonary disease that will take my life within more or less two years (I am 76). When I was diagnosed something happened that surprised me. I slowly let go of my guilt over things large and small (I used to be very good at guilt) and I let go of regrets (I was never as good at regrets as I was at guilt!). I started to feel free. It was ok to do what I wanted to do (my disease keeps at home a lot but not in pain). Its ok to watch TV all day if I want. Or play computer games. Or read, whether it be a mystery or a book of history and its ok not to finish a book if I don't want to. Whatever I feel like doing is ok (yes, alright, I don't feel like doing anything iniquitous!). And I have to admit that my conscience is clear because I have the means to help people and I always do -- who knows if I would feel guilty if it weren't for that...no one is perfect...). Now a comment on your blog on "hope": as I look at the future of the world, it is hard to be hopeful but what is possible is not to give in to despair and do what one can to hopefully help stop worrying developments, even if only by signing a petition or a letter to a congressperson. And finally, on those people who traveled by wagon to the West, I think no one told them they were going to steal land that had belonged to others for millennia. One can feel bad for them while seeing the bigger picture, as I am sure you know and as you describe in one of your novels.
I wish you and I could sit down and talk. We would have a fascinating conversation!
I'm thrilled you're going to live out the rest of your life doing what you want! Choosing joy and peace is so crucial.
Yes, hope is sometimes very hard to find. Being an historian is helpful. I don't believe there is a single time in history when it wouldn't have been easy to give in to despair. I think the only way for that to happen is to be so far away from the civilization and from news, that you haven't a clue what craziness is happening. I appreciate the internet because it helps me reach the world, but I also believe it makes it too easy to be completely overwhelmed with all the things we know instantly.
And, YES, to traveling west. I shake my head when people talk about who "discovered" America. History can be so ridiculous. You can't discover something that has been occupied for millennia. I am part Cherokee. My ancestors were forced on the Trail of Tears. Every single tribe has been through its own hell - created by white man's greed and the stupid belief of Manifest Destiny.
Regret is a word I struggle with! Do I have them? Of course! Am I'm upset about them? Not really. Sure, I could have made different choices or taken my life on a different path, but then I may not have landed where I am now. I'm quite happy with my life now. I wasn't happy for a long time, but if I hadn't gone through those struggles, I wouldn't be the person I am today.
The only regret I will have in life is if I never get to take my solo trip to Disney World haha! That's been on my bucket list since I was a kid. I've been with family and friends, but have always dreamed of a trip by myself. It will probably never happen, because I accidentally turned my husband into a Disney adult and could never leave him behind, but maybe someday...
LOL! Disney World Adult?? I love this! But... I hope you get to take your solo trip! Why do you want to go by yourself?
Because DW is always growing and changing. There's so much to do and explore! It's hard to take my time and soak it all in when I'm trying to make sure everyone else gets to do all the things that they want to do. I love sharing the magic with my family, but I've always selfishly wanted to do it on my own terms as well. Even as a kid when we went with big groups of friends and family, I always told myself that one day I'd take a trip on my own. The closest I've gotten was last year when my husband and I went, without the kids, for an anniversary trip. Hopefully some day!
Hi Ginny, I have a pulmonary disease that will take my life within more or less two years (I am 76). When I was diagnosed something happened that surprised me. I slowly let go of my guilt over things large and small (I used to be very good at guilt) and I let go of regrets (I was never as good at regrets as I was at guilt!). I started to feel free. It was ok to do what I wanted to do (my disease keeps at home a lot but not in pain). Its ok to watch TV all day if I want. Or play computer games. Or read, whether it be a mystery or a book of history and its ok not to finish a book if I don't want to. Whatever I feel like doing is ok (yes, alright, I don't feel like doing anything iniquitous!). And I have to admit that my conscience is clear because I have the means to help people and I always do -- who knows if I would feel guilty if it weren't for that...no one is perfect...). Now a comment on your blog on "hope": as I look at the future of the world, it is hard to be hopeful but what is possible is not to give in to despair and do what one can to hopefully help stop worrying developments, even if only by signing a petition or a letter to a congressperson. And finally, on those people who traveled by wagon to the West, I think no one told them they were going to steal land that had belonged to others for millennia. One can feel bad for them while seeing the bigger picture, as I am sure you know and as you describe in one of your novels.
I wish you and I could sit down and talk. We would have a fascinating conversation!
I'm thrilled you're going to live out the rest of your life doing what you want! Choosing joy and peace is so crucial.
Yes, hope is sometimes very hard to find. Being an historian is helpful. I don't believe there is a single time in history when it wouldn't have been easy to give in to despair. I think the only way for that to happen is to be so far away from the civilization and from news, that you haven't a clue what craziness is happening. I appreciate the internet because it helps me reach the world, but I also believe it makes it too easy to be completely overwhelmed with all the things we know instantly.
And, YES, to traveling west. I shake my head when people talk about who "discovered" America. History can be so ridiculous. You can't discover something that has been occupied for millennia. I am part Cherokee. My ancestors were forced on the Trail of Tears. Every single tribe has been through its own hell - created by white man's greed and the stupid belief of Manifest Destiny.
See what great conversations we would have? :)
Thank you Ginny! It makes me happy that you think we would have interesting conversations! Next time you are in Peru.... :)