Letter 71 - Destined To Be An Old Woman With No Regrets!
Hello Bregdan Woman!
You have Ginny today…
2016 on the Florida coast.
A little magnet (a gift from a friend) had been on my printer for almost 10 years… staring at me… challenging me… mostly being ignored because I’d gotten so used to seeing it.
Until that changed.
Suddenly, the ignored little magnet was shouting my name… demanding I pay attention…making me question decisions and life choices. I tried to ignore it because I had so many things on my mind, but it simply refused to be ignored.
There were times I wanted to rip it off my printer and toss it in the trash, but I couldn’t. It demanded to be heard… demanded to be examined… demanded to be acted on.
What does the little magnet say? (It’s still on my printer!)
I Am Destined To Be An Old Woman With No Regrets!
If you had asked me a few months earlier if that was true for my life I would have said, “Yes.”
I was doing what I love more than anything in the world (writing books) successfully, I had amazing friendships, I had more adventures than just about anyone I knew, and I had the freedom to make choices I wanted to make.
I mean, come on, wanting anything more than that seemed more than a little greedy. Mostly, though, it made me very uncomfortable because suddenly I was examining some of my choices and realizing that little magnet was no longer completely true – I wasn’t going to be an Old Woman with No Regrets.
Sigh…
I finally quit ignoring it, and I spent many long hours examining what things in my life would cause me to grow old with regrets. I had to face them with unflinching honesty because more than anything else, I truly want to live with NO REGRETS.
Once I had identified them, I realized I was faced with choices and actions I didn’t necessarily want to make because I knew they would not be well received.
I continued to struggle.
No Regrets… No Regrets…
As I struggled, I pondered all the Bregdan Women I had learned about through the years. Their voices called to me.
The day finally came when I knew that no matter what the cost, I was ready to make the choices and take the actions that would free my mind and soul to truly live with no regrets.
I never want to look back on my life and wish I had done something different… wish I had done the thing I feared… wish I had done the thing people thought I shouldn’t (or couldn’t) do…
I made those choices and took the necessary actions. I can truly say I am FREE to live the life I am meant to live, and that I am looking solidly into a future with NO REGRETS. It wasn’t easy, and there were pain and tears along the way, but my heart is at peace.
My choices and actions are not important. What IS important is how you would answer the question I finally faced and answered.
Are YOU Destined to Grow Old with No Regrets?
I challenge you to take a good, long look at your life. Will you wish you had done something differently? Will you wish you had done the thing you feared? Will you wish you had done the thing people thought you shouldn’t, or couldn’t, do?
I invite you to join me on the Path to NO REGRETS.
The path is not easy. There will probably be some pain, tears, and fears. There will be people who completely believe you are making wrong decisions because they will probably be so different from the choices you have made before. Here’s the thing, though…
It is YOUR life.
YOU are the only one who will look back on your life and wonder if you lived it with NO REGRETS.
Join me… I can promise you it is worth it!
I believe 1000% that you have the ability to live as a Bregdan Woman with no regrets.
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What will you do to be a Bregdan Woman?
What will you do today to impact history??
We’re on this journey with you… (and have 2 FREE Gifts for you below…)
Ginny & Suess
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Regret is a word I struggle with! Do I have them? Of course! Am I'm upset about them? Not really. Sure, I could have made different choices or taken my life on a different path, but then I may not have landed where I am now. I'm quite happy with my life now. I wasn't happy for a long time, but if I hadn't gone through those struggles, I wouldn't be the person I am today.
The only regret I will have in life is if I never get to take my solo trip to Disney World haha! That's been on my bucket list since I was a kid. I've been with family and friends, but have always dreamed of a trip by myself. It will probably never happen, because I accidentally turned my husband into a Disney adult and could never leave him behind, but maybe someday...
Hi Ginny, I have a pulmonary disease that will take my life within more or less two years (I am 76). When I was diagnosed something happened that surprised me. I slowly let go of my guilt over things large and small (I used to be very good at guilt) and I let go of regrets (I was never as good at regrets as I was at guilt!). I started to feel free. It was ok to do what I wanted to do (my disease keeps at home a lot but not in pain). Its ok to watch TV all day if I want. Or play computer games. Or read, whether it be a mystery or a book of history and its ok not to finish a book if I don't want to. Whatever I feel like doing is ok (yes, alright, I don't feel like doing anything iniquitous!). And I have to admit that my conscience is clear because I have the means to help people and I always do -- who knows if I would feel guilty if it weren't for that...no one is perfect...). Now a comment on your blog on "hope": as I look at the future of the world, it is hard to be hopeful but what is possible is not to give in to despair and do what one can to hopefully help stop worrying developments, even if only by signing a petition or a letter to a congressperson. And finally, on those people who traveled by wagon to the West, I think no one told them they were going to steal land that had belonged to others for millennia. One can feel bad for them while seeing the bigger picture, as I am sure you know and as you describe in one of your novels.