Letter 59 - 46 Months and $120,000!
Hello Bregdan Woman,
You have Suess today…
A true Bregdan Woman creates light from darkness.
Hope from despair.
A solution from problems.
That’s what Becky had to do…
The emotional pain was too much. Becky just couldn’t do this any longer. She and husband Kip wanted a child. But physically she just couldn’t endure any more. The In-Vitro treatments nearly drained their financial resources and their stamina. Daily shots, lab work, ultrasounds, and surgeries had left both of them sad and exhausted.
Looking at Kip, Becky tried to form the words, but sometimes words aren’t enough. Her eyes said what her lips couldn’t.
Kip held his wife and simply hugged her to himself. He knew she couldn’t bear more.
It was all too much. The injections, the bruises, the pain, and the turmoil. Her mind rolled back over time to the beginning: the treatments; then the miscarriages.
The hardest part was being afraid to hope. But they did – hoping against hope that THIS time it would work.
They had reached the end.
Five cycles of treatment to miscarry three times was too much to bear. They had spent over $80,000 on this process, but money couldn’t match the emotional pain and exhaustion.
Years had come and gone – still no baby.
It was time to take a different path.
Knowing the high cost of adoption, Becky and Kip pulled out the last of their savings – $40,000. Finding an experienced adoption lawyer, they placed their family’s future in the hands of the adoption process.
A new journey began as they were selected by a birth mother. Then she changed her mind.
Weeks of silence taunted the days and haunted their nights. A phone call came. They’d been selected by another birth mother. With more information, THEY decided not to proceed.
Weeks again of silence left them wondering if they’d ever have a child.
Finally, after months of agony-filled waiting, they received another call that said there would be a baby born and she would be theirs.
Words weren’t enough to describe the feeling when little Jane was placed into their eager arms. They took her home and became a family.
It had taken 46 months – 46 months of physical, mental, and emotional investment for this loving couple. When they held their daughter, it was worth every bit of money and pain.
Four years later, in 2009, their daughter Brooke joined their family through adoption.
Becky and Kip had what they had dreamed of, but the journey they were forced to take had revealed the problems and weaknesses within the United States adoption process. It wasn’t enough that their own dreams had come true – what about all the potential parents who were still floundering?
They knew wonderful, potential parents were thwarted from adopting because of the fees involved. They had been able to afford the costs, but how many babies were going without parents because of the upfront fees?
There were parents going without children because they could not afford the legal and medical costs.
There were parents not able to adopt because they were single.
Parents not able to adopt because they weren’t the traditional heterosexual family.
Potential parents, desperate for a child, suffered.
Children, desperate for parents, were left without families.
Something had to be done.
Becky and Kip Fawcett resolved to change the situation. Deeply touched by and dismayed at the process of adoption, they formed an organization entitled HelpUsAdopt.ORG.
The organization does exactly what its name says. They provide financial grants to cover some of the costs, thereby helping devoted, loving, potential parents to adopt. HelpUsAdopt’s mission is “building families through adoption.”
“HelpUsAdopt.org is a national non-profit …financial assistance grant program that will provide qualified couples and individuals (regardless of race, religion, marital status or sexual preference) with grants of up to $20,000 towards their adoption expenses.”
Becky Fawcett is an amazing Bregdan Woman.
This couple could have understandably been interested only in their new daughter, and their new life. They could have ignored the plight of other couples wanting a child. They didn’t have to get involved with families they didn’t even know.
Becky and Kip saw a need and decided they could help. They could reach out with their story – and the means to help. And that is exactly what they did. In their very first year of existence, HelpUsAdopt provided $53,000 ”to eight recipients: 4 childless couples, 3 single women, and 1 family with three special needs adoptions.”
Since it’s birth in 2007, HelpUsAdopt.org has awarded 715 adoption grants totaling over $6.8 million.
YES!
That’s the kind of life I want to lead – reaching out to help others find their way.
What about you?
You don’t have to start a nonprofit organization to do that, although you might one day. You never know what the future holds!
For now, I can encourage other people to live their dreams. I can offer my support and assistance. I know how wonderful it is when I feel others around me give me encouragement. I can do that, and it doesn’t cost me one thing!
You can do that too!
That’s what it means to be a Bregdan Woman!
Today as you walk the road of life, look for ways to give to people around you.
Maybe you will create a foundation, a corporation, or a nonprofit organization.
Maybe you will promote, endorse and further your favorite political cause.
Maybe you will help a friend who is discouraged and needs the confidence to try that job search one more time.
Maybe you will possibilities are endless!
The important thing is simply to take action!
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What will you do to be a Bregdan Woman?
What will you do today to impact history??
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